Hi – I’m Ann and I design stuff in the social networking area of Windows Live. One of the things I love about Windows Live is the variety of settings you can change to suit your preferences. You can pick different layouts and themes, what kind of content you want to see, and how you want to be contacted.

Earlier I wrote a blog entry on how to decide who can see your stuff on Windows Live, but this entry is devoted to deciding who can send you invitations or private messages, or ask to see your space. You may be getting contacted by people you don’t know (and don’t want to know!). It’s really easy to stop the insanity.

How to change who can contact you

1. Go to your general options page. You can get there from the options dropdown on your homepage or profile. Click Options, and then click More options.
   
2. On the general options page, in the Notifications section, click Communications preferences.
3. Use the dropdown menus to set who can contact you. The different choices are:
• Anyone – this means anyone on the Internet can contact you
• People in your network - these are the people on your profile, in Messenger, or both
• People in your extended network - these are the people connected with the people in your network (you can think of them as “friends of your friends”)
• No one
4. If you make any changes, be sure to click Save.

How I decided on my settings

There are benefits and drawbacks to each of these settings, depending on your perspective. For “Who can invite you to their network?” I chose “People in your extended network.”

That means only people who know my friends can invite me to be friends. This seems reasonable but doesn’t account for long-lost friends who might Bing me and want to be friends but don’t know anyone I’m currently connected to. I’ve decided that’s ok because, for sending private messages, I chose “Anyone.” I have it set to “Anyone” because sometimes people read my blog and want to comment privately about something I wrote and I want them to be able to do that.

However, using the extended network setting is only as good as your network is choosy! One of my friends, Chris, has 873 friends! Now, I know he doesn’t know 873 people – he’s just accepting every invitation he receives, so some of them might be spammers. That means all of those people can send me invitations, which some of them do. For now, I’m living with it, and Chris gets a ribbing from all of us at every opportunity.

The remaining option is for space access requests, which are irrelevant for me since my space is public. Your space may not be public, so this setting might be valuable to you.

So that’s how you set who can contact you. If you have any comments or suggestions, please send us feedback.

- Ann, Social Media UX
  Windows Live team

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